tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post8953138135507914333..comments2023-10-07T00:53:44.179-07:00Comments on Trying is the Fun Part!: Fear.abbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11633868562914791467noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-64532529129939811612007-02-21T12:04:00.000-08:002007-02-21T12:04:00.000-08:00how are you doing now? Still okay?how are you doing now? Still okay?Ms. Perkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06923832430040384294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-7539343402288327702007-02-17T17:36:00.000-08:002007-02-17T17:36:00.000-08:00Oh gosh, I JUST posted about this same exact thing...Oh gosh, I JUST posted about this same exact thing. I find it comforting to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way. Here's to hoping that NO MORE SHOES drop anywhere near any of us.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05854629796340961084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-50740091031168685882007-02-16T09:36:00.000-08:002007-02-16T09:36:00.000-08:00Yup, now that the shock is wearing off- we too are...Yup, now that the shock is wearing off- we too are feeling alittle cautious-- and I am trying desperately to let that go. I think after having repeated "no, I am not pregnant" soemthing like over 100 or so times last year-- it is just plain hard to think, yeah, I really am. And that I am going to get to keep it. We are cautious beings us IVFers...so I am not saying run out and buy baby elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01956209841026195618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-72739540654079018502007-02-15T13:27:00.000-08:002007-02-15T13:27:00.000-08:00I'm glad to know I'm not the only one feeling this...I'm glad to know I'm not the only one feeling this way... I've taken to looking at it as one hurdle down - x number to go... it helps most days.Samihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17571824699335677531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-74831801268464581482007-02-14T13:25:00.000-08:002007-02-14T13:25:00.000-08:00Congratulations.Your post sums up exactly how I fe...Congratulations.<BR/><BR/>Your post sums up exactly how I felt for my first trimester. The second trimester was a little better. Then, even in the third, if I hadn't been solidly kicked in a while I got nervous. The good thing about constant u/s and non-stress tests was the twice weekly reassurance that the babies were still alive.<BR/><BR/>You aren't alone in your fears. And, again, Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04505622963819102492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-75808108298951135172007-02-14T12:25:00.000-08:002007-02-14T12:25:00.000-08:00I think what you are going through is totally norm...I think what you are going through is totally normal for many women, but especially those pregnant after IF. But please, don't think that you had it "easy." Easy is getting pregnant the first month you go off birth control. That's easy. Nothing about your story sounds easy to me. Yes, it could have been worse, it could have taken much longer--but that doesn't mean it was easy for you. Don't let Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07571206637500986506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-17035952075925623052007-02-13T22:06:00.000-08:002007-02-13T22:06:00.000-08:00Congratulations. And don't let your prior IF rob ...Congratulations. And don't let your prior IF rob you of the joy of this pregnancy. You deserve the joy.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290007044439581358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-33073608241584443752007-02-13T18:08:00.000-08:002007-02-13T18:08:00.000-08:00You're boringly normal for a post-IF preggo.Your f...You're boringly normal for a post-IF preggo.<BR/><BR/>Your forum friend is absolutely right. I remember very distinctly on one of my highFSH boards, a gal who had just dealt with a m/c at 11 or so weeks. She posted about how the biggest regret she has about the whole situation was that she spent 11 wks dreading and expecting this outcome. Looking back, she wished she had enjoyed and felt joy for Nickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04685076574146821569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-60981983273882003152007-02-13T14:13:00.000-08:002007-02-13T14:13:00.000-08:00I'm going with happy... we don't get enough opport...I'm going with happy... we don't get enough opportunities to be happy. I've spent too much time over the last 9 months worrying... so even though I am just a tiny bit worried, I'm trying to let the positivity wash over me.<BR/><BR/>I want us ALL to have good news next week!Hopeful Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15339776324264791028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-82872464607004643912007-02-13T12:15:00.000-08:002007-02-13T12:15:00.000-08:00Have a virtual drink on the house--especially to c...Have a virtual drink on the house--especially to celebrate this pregnancy.<BR/><BR/>I think the fear is very normal. But it is good advice--my therapist gave it to me too because I refused to tell people or plan for anything even when we were 5 months along. I wasn't fooling anyone, but somehow talking about it was too scary. But it's true--there is nothing you could do now that could protect Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-90003982583313606522007-02-13T11:30:00.000-08:002007-02-13T11:30:00.000-08:00I think what you're feeling sounds totally reasona...I think what you're feeling sounds totally reasonable - and I definitely don't think that you're less entitled to it because you didn't suffer with IF for as long as some of us have. It doesn't matter how long you struggled - the insecurity that comes with IF is still real.<BR/><BR/>I think your friend gave you very good advice - I've tried every approach on all my failed cycles - from being Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168704988026789910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-32988329043759076132007-02-13T11:28:00.000-08:002007-02-13T11:28:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168704988026789910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-34121999435198561072007-02-13T09:49:00.000-08:002007-02-13T09:49:00.000-08:00I'm in the same boat dear. 9 weeks in... panic str...I'm in the same boat dear. 9 weeks in... panic stricken... and sometimes... overjoyed...<BR/><BR/>My prayers are with you.Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04243543988489653603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-16280559895244652662007-02-13T09:28:00.000-08:002007-02-13T09:28:00.000-08:00Figured I'd stop by- I finished my Cherry Coke at ...Figured I'd stop by- I finished my Cherry Coke at Melissa's Virtual Bar and thought your words were rather familiar. <BR/><BR/>Shedding the fear blanket. It sounds like such simple, matter of fact advice. And it is, it's just harder to actually do. I am currently 6 months pregnant. It does get a little easier to come out from under the blanket as more time passes. I still keep mine near, mandolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15570528484019572953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-4264842313730044512007-02-13T09:08:00.000-08:002007-02-13T09:08:00.000-08:00This post really spoke to me. I'm going through so...This post really spoke to me. I'm going through something (at work) and I have to let go of my fear blanket. I can't change the outcome. I will make it through whatever happens. I need to stay in the moment. Thank you for the reminder.BigP's Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124157582246972372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-23448585419276387612007-02-13T07:14:00.000-08:002007-02-13T07:14:00.000-08:00I'll be praying for your safe pregnancy. It's defi...I'll be praying for your safe pregnancy. It's definitely scary but embrace it, it's happening.Baby Blueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09283845137728737575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-52257636850023232332007-02-13T06:33:00.000-08:002007-02-13T06:33:00.000-08:00Aw hon, I think what you are going through is natu...Aw hon, I think what you are going through is natural for those of us dealing with infertility. If you read my posts through January 2006-October 2006 you will see that all along the way I was paranoid. I was afraid at any moment my hope would be torn to pieces. We didn't buy her furniture until I was 8 months pregnant because I was still afraid that something would go wrong. And then when itMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01851059236142490659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-88065043367272653762007-02-13T05:31:00.000-08:002007-02-13T05:31:00.000-08:00And I know that this is "normal" for almost all wo...<I>And I know that this is "normal" for almost all women in early pregnancy.</I><BR/><BR/>Actually, it isn't normal for almost all women. So far as I can figure, it's only "normal" for women who are pregnant after infertility. It's one of the things that infertility does: it robs us of our ability to be happy about pregnancy, though it's all we've wanted.<BR/><BR/>Your friend on the pregnancy Ms. Perkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06923832430040384294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2749450593170537314.post-25017399122455447602007-02-12T20:05:00.000-08:002007-02-12T20:05:00.000-08:00You are me a few months ago. I am 5 and ahalf mont...You are me a few months ago. I am 5 and ahalf months pregnant w/twins after a long and hard road and I still struggle with that shoe-dropping fear. So many of us do. Reading your blog (and so many others) reminds me that we are not alone. <BR/><BR/>You just cleared some very big hurdles and seem to be on a excellent path. Congrats! Good luck and keep trying to shrug off the fear!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01233972102418274980noreply@blogger.com